Are you a card carrying member of the lonely hearts club?
I was too. Here’s how I found love after 40 (actually after 50)…
I didn’t ‘date’ for 10 years after my divorce, I wasn’t interested in online dating and I wanted time to be the best version of myself. This probably didn’t need to take 10 years! But like many, I was just resistant to ‘get back out there’.
I was convinced to try Match and here were my ‘rules of dating’:
- Make it a fun ‘job’
- Commit to ONE date a week
- Wear a ‘dating uniform’ (so you don’t have to think about what to wear)
- Manage expectations (every date will NOT be prince charming)
- Keep the date short
- Make the date in a public place
- Have someone track my location on your phone so you felt safe
- Be yourself
- Be unapologetic about your boundaries
- Stay positive
I had only one ‘questionable’ date with a fella that immediately showed me the AX he was buying, right after telling me that women shouldn’t do sports, except maybe tennis. This was obviously NOT a love connection.
I met ‘nice people’, just not my person.
This had NOTHING to do with my worth as a person. I needed to be patient and trust the process. I’m a nice person, there must be a nice person out there and it only takes ONE.
And then, I had a date with a handsome, sporty, articulate, funny man who raised a daughter and loves cooking and meal prep and loves dogs.
So far it’s been 2.5 years of fun and adventure.
If I can find love after 50, so can you.
One thing that helps is feeling good in your own skin, I can definitely help you to that end.
Let’s talk: https://tinyurl.com/talktoShawnaK